Helping Children and Teens After a Suicide
Survivors of Suicide Loss Support Group - Madison, NJ
It is often hard to help a child deal with there grief after losing a parent or friend to suicide. How children deal with grief is dependent on their age. Generally it is recommended that you seek professional counseling for children to help them work through their grief after a suicide. The following is a collection of article, websites and printouts for a parent or caregiver to help a child or teen deal with their grief following the suicide of a loved one.
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Specialized Counseling for Children and Teens After a Suicide
In the aftermath of a suicide it is often said that children are the forgotten grievers.
The adults around them are often consumed by the tragedy of the suicide and they can miss that the children are suffering in their own way. Kids and teens will process the loss on a different level and may not relate or share how they are feeling with you. They have seen the adults in their lives suddenly crying and out of control of their emotions. They are used to looking up to you, and suddenly they are often confused.
IT IS IMPORTANT THAT YOU FIND A GRIEF COUNSELOR AND A CHILDHOOD BEREAVEMENT GROUP TO ASSIST THE CHILDREN AFTER A SUICIDE LOSS.
There are many great grief programs for children and teens across the USA. Many of them are free. You can find a list of them here: National Alliance for Grieving Children: Finding Support Many of these groups can provide you local lists of individual grief counselors that they maintain.
Here in NJ there are several local grief groups for children:
Website: www.good-grief.org
Telephone: (908) 522-1999
Email: info@good-grief.org
Grief support programs for grieving children, teens and young adults
In Morristown and Princeton NJ
Imagine Center for Coping With Loss
Website: imaginenj.org
Telephone: (908) 264-3100
Resource: Brochure
Located in Westfield NJ
Year-round peer grief support center for children age 3-18 coping with loss due to the death of a parent or sibling. Concurrent support groups are available for parents and guardians. Adult peer support groups are available for young adults 18-30, adults 30-50 and adults 50 and up who are coping with loss due to the death of a spouse, parent, child, sibling or other significant person.
Website: www.comfortzonecamp.org
Telephone: (201) 867-2077
Email: info@comfortzonecamp.org
Offers year-round free weekend and week-long bereavement camps for kids 7-17 and young adults 19-23 who have lost a parent, sibling, or primary care giver. Once or twice a year they hold a 3 day weekend camp for children 3-17 and young adults 18-24 that is specifically tailored to suicide loss. Call for more details.
Helping Children and Teens Cope With A Suicide Loss
Children, Teens and Suicide Loss
Resource: 28 page PDF
Summary: Handbook for parents and caregivers to assist children after a suicide loss
Author: AFSP and The Dougy Center
Suicide Loss: What Teens Need to Know
Resource: 21 page PDF
Summary: Self-help for Young People who have Lost a Family Member or Friend to Suicide
When a Child's Friend Dies by Suicide
Resource: 2 page PDF
Summary: When your child’s life is touched by the suicide of a peer or a friend, you may find yourself experiencing a lot of different things about the same time. Initially,you will most likely be stunned by the death.
Coping with Suicide Loss, Telling Children
Resource: 5 page PDF
Summary: For many adults, suicide can be very upsetting and frightening. If you find yourself having to explain suicide to a child, you may be wondering about the best way to do it. You can even be so overwhelmed that you feel tempted to “protect” the child by saying that the death was caused by a heart attack or an accident, rather than by suicide. To help, here are some practical guidelines.
When a parent dies by suicide… What kids want to know
Resource: 6 page PDF
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When A Parent Dies by Suicide…What Kids Want to Know
Resource: 4 page PDF
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After a Suicide: Answering Questions and Assisting Students
Resource: 4 Page PDF
Author: Rutgers University Behavioral Health Care
Summary: The aftermath of a youth suicide is a sad and challenging time for a school or a community. The major tasks for suicide postvention are to help youth manage the understandable feelings of shock, grief and confusion and to prevent further suicides
Suicide Resources from The Dougy Center
Resource: 2 Page PDF
Author: The Dougy Center
Summary:
Talking With Children and Teens About Suicide and Grief
Talking to Children About Suicide
Resource: 2 page PDF
Summary:
Coping With Suicide Loss…Talking with Children
Resource: 4 page PDF
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Explaining Suicide to Children
Resource: Webpage
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What to Tell Children of a Loved One’s Suicide?
Resource: Blog Post
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Private vs. Secret: Coaching Children on What to Share
Resource: Webpage
Summary: Helping children to understand how and when to talk about suicide with others.
Talking With Children About Tragic Events
Resource: Webpage
Author: The Dougy Center
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Children’s Grief Education Association – Words that can help/hurt
Resource: 1 Page PDF
Author: Children's Grief Education Association
Summary: A short list of words and expressions that you can discuss with children when dealing with grief.
Helping Children and Teens Cope with Funerals and Memorial Services
Preparing Your Child For Attending the Funeral of a Friend
Resource: 1 page PDF
Summary: Tips and guidelines for helping your child participate at a funeral
Preparing a Child to Attend a Memorial Service
Resource: 3 page PDF
Summary: The decision to allow a young child to attend another child’s funeral or wake is sensitive. Use your discretion. There is no right or wrong. Your personal decision is okay.
Understanding Traumatic Grief and Children
Understanding Grief and Age Appropriate Reactions to Traumatic Events
Resource: 13 page PDF
Author: Richard Hall Community Mental Health Center
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Resource: 16 page PDF
Summary: Like adults, children and teens may feel intense sadness and loss, or grief, when a person close to them dies. And like adults, children and teens express their grief in how they behave, what they think and say, and how they feel emotionally and physically. Each child grieves differently, and there is no right or wrong way or length of time to grieve.
Parent Guidelines For Crisis Response
Resource: 4 page PDF
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Coping with Crisis—Helping Children With Special Needs
Resource: Website
Author: National Association of School Psychologists
Summary: When a crisis event occurs—in school, in the community or at the national level—it can cause strong and deeply felt reactions in adults and children, especially those children with special needs. Many of the available crisis response resources are appropriate for use with students with disabilities, provided that individual consideration is given to the child’s developmental and emotional maturity. Acts of healing such as making drawings, writing letters, attending memorial ceremonies and sending money to relief charities are important for all children.
Understanding Child and Teen Grief
Sesame Street: When Families Grieve
Resource: Webpage
Summary:
Resource: Website
Resource: 24 Page PDF
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Understand Death, Grieving & Mourning : Bereavement Resource Book
Resource: Website
Resource: 48 Page PDF
Summary: Cornerstone of Hope, Centers for Grieving Children, Teens and Adults
Helping Children Cope With Loss, Death, and Grief Tips for Teachers and Parents
Resource: 4 page PDF
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American Counseling Association - Grief Reactions over the Lifespan
Resource: 2 Page PDF
Summary: A listing of age appropriate responses based on age. People of different age groups respond differently to grief.
Resource: 48 page Workbook
Resource: 8 minute video Part 1
Resource: 8 minute Video Part 2
Resource: 8 minute Video Part 3
Summary: This booklet and accompanying videos have been developed to help you understand your grief and to let you know that you are not alone. Many teens are sharing the same journey, and help is available right now.
Children's Grief Education Association
Resource: Website
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National Alliance for Grieving Children
Resource: Website
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Suggestions for Helping Children
Resource: 1 page PDF
Summary: Children have the same emotional needs after the suicide of a loved one as adults, but often their hurts are not taken seriously. Many times adults have their hands full of grief and do not think to reach out to the children. Here are some ideas.
New York Life Foundation: A Child In Grief
Resource: Website
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Understanding Childhood Grief and How to Help: A Guide for Adults
Resource: Webpage
Author: Rutgers University Behavioral Health Care
Summary: Traumatic Loss Coalitions for Youth – Grief reactions/helpful responses
Resource: Webpage
Author: The Dougy Center
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Tips for Supporting the Grieving Teen
Resource: 3 Page PDF
Author: The Dougy Center
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Tips for Supporting Grieving Children
Resource: 3 Page PDF
Author: The Dougy Center
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Resource: 3 Page PDF
Author: The Dougy Center
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Companioning the Grieving Child Curriculum Book
Resource: 94 page PDF
Summary: For children and teens. The PDF files for the Companioning the Grieving Child Curriculum Book activity handouts and worksheets - See more at: http://www.centerforloss.com